go against the grain
US /ɡoʊ əˈɡɛnst ðə ɡreɪn/
UK /ɡoʊ əˈɡɛnst ðə ɡreɪn/

1.
doğasına aykırı olmak, ters düşmek
to be contrary to one's natural inclination or to generally accepted norms or practices
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It really goes against the grain for him to ask for help, as he's always been so independent.
Yardım istemek onun için gerçekten doğasına aykırı, çünkü her zaman çok bağımsız olmuştur.
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Her decision to pursue art went against the grain of her family's expectations for her to become a doctor.
Sanatla uğraşma kararı, ailesinin doktor olma beklentilerine ters düştü.