go against the grain

US /ɡoʊ əˈɡɛnst ðə ɡreɪn/
UK /ɡoʊ əˈɡɛnst ðə ɡreɪn/
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性に合わない, 慣例に反する

to be contrary to one's natural inclination or to generally accepted norms or practices

:
It really goes against the grain for him to ask for help, as he's always been so independent.
彼が助けを求めるのは、いつも自立していた彼にとって本当に性に合わないことだ。
Her decision to pursue art went against the grain of her family's expectations for her to become a doctor.
彼女が芸術を追求するという決断は、医者になるという家族の期待に反していた